December 2011
194 posts
I wish you a happy New Year!
I wish you all a better year for 2012. I hope you’re going to be in peace with yourself, I wish you healthy relationships, and better health in general.
I love you all!
Julie
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awkwardpandaisaaaaawkward asked: Hi Julie! Just your every-so-often reminder of how awesome you are! Have a happy new year!
soyacide asked: I broke up with my boyfriend so I can find myself. I'm hoping this isn't a BPD mistake :( Bleh.
soyacide asked: I just wanted to say I think this Tumblr is phenomenal.
Anonymous asked: Hi Julie, This isn't necessarily a question... well... it isn't a question at all. I just want to write and share my story with you. I've been exhibiting symtoms of Borderline since I was extremely young, probably between the ages of 4 and 5. I used to be terrified my friends were going to abandon me and gang up against me. I was diagnosed a little over a year ago with bipolar and...
Anonymous asked: I know nothing can replace a diagnosis, but I'm scared to approach someone. I feel I exhibit a lot of behaviors associated w/ BPD, the extremities, not just occasional feelings. My moods change rapidly and even one, inoffensive comment can make me question my worth as a person. I get unreasonably scared that others will abandon me. Whenever I'm with other people, I feel useless unless I...
poorhornycat asked: Hi I've been feeling awful for months (well, awful is an understatement) and one of my friends suggested I look into personality disorders, specifically BPD, and wow, everything makes so much more sense now. I'm going to talk to a professional right away.
Anonymous asked: Odk if this is part of bpd but there is this girl in my grade who copies EVERYTHING iidea I have! I dye my hair black, so does she! I talk about getting my lip peirced, she deoes it I can! It drives me crazy! And she takes the same classes I do and has to out do everything I do! It makes me want to give up, I don't know if I'm hypersensitive to it or what.... how do I deal with it!?!
missdorotheabrooke asked: Also have you ever seen the anime Sayonara Zetsubou Sensei? I fucking love the show and the whole deal of it (it's built around one character who only sees the worst in everything and one who only sees the best in everything, but both sides are obviously flawed/fucked up and are made fun of accordingly) seems very BPD to me. I really really recommend trying it if you haven't seen it.
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About Holidays.
First I’m sorry I couldn’t post more today, but I had health problems. I wish I could have had almost answered all the questions in my ask, but, too bad, I guess.
So I won’t be there as much for the Holidays.
I will try to put submissions in queue for the 28th, 29th and 30th, and after New Year.
I know that for some of you, Christmas isn’t a good period… If you...
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juicyfizz asked: Re: mindfulness... I have always sucked at mindfulness and would rage because I couldn't just sit with my thoughts even for thirty seconds... but I downloaded an app for my iPhone called "Mindfulness" (it's the one with the letters "Mnf" as the icon) and it gave me structured meditations, and it completely changed things for me. So that may help!
Dear followers who ask me questions,
I’m really trying to help the best that I can, but I must say that some questions come back all the time… The one that comes back the most is “How do I bring up the fact that I think I suffer from BPD to my doctor/therapist?”
I’ve answered to this one a lot of time. Sometimes there are a few personal “twists” to the questions, but it’s often...
cherry-burlesque asked: @Anon. Look up mindful thinking or mindfulness and the process of using this technique. It's often used to help anxiety or panic attacks, and if you master it, it may help you when it comes to dealing with medical people.
lesbegays asked: For everyone wondering about being diagnosed as a minor, I'm fourteen and I was recently diagnosed with emergent borderline traits, and my therapist is convinced I have it. Maybe I'm just lucky to have mental health professionals who would rather diagnose me young so I can get the help I need while it's only been going on for a few years. However, I was always too afraid to ask for...
Anonymous asked: Is it only me, but do you feel when you excuse your behavior by saying "it's my bpd" you practically saying "I am so weak, I could not beat this on my own"? I don't want to be weak, I am bloody warrior I am freaking awesome. If I break the world will fall apart, and it's going to be my fault. It always is. I should never be weak. I can beat it, right? I hope I...
Anonymous asked: I just saw a psychiatrist yesterday who told me I display traits of borderline, so I looked up this blog, and I feel so comforted realizing that it explains all the infuriating things about myself that I could just never explain before. How much I relate to it made me both sob and smile. Thank you for helping me know that I'm not as alone as I feel. <3
Anonymous asked: What if you think you have bpd, but aren't sure? Like what if thinking you have it is just an excuse to all the bullshit in your life? I'm just really confused and need advice. I don't know if I'm making this up in my head to feel better by the fact that there's a name for all of this and I'm not the only one, or that I really do have it. Does that make sense? Seeking...
Anonymous asked: I can't bring myself to get treated even though I know I'll end up completely destroying myself if I don't. I've been to several psychiatrists before, mostly against my will, but I always end up quitting ASAP. As soon as I'm asked about anything personal, I panic and can't do anything more than curl up and sob while my mind drifts off. And if someone pressures me...
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crimsonglass asked: Everyday feels like a war, & when life doesn't through obstacles on my way, feel useless - dumb - worthless. I don't know how normal feels, would love 2 read and maybe imitate some patterns of behavior. Maybe it will stick like glue on me, and eventually I will be normal - whatever it means. Anxiety is killing, cannot breathe. The hardest part is not let my feelings get out, I...
bindingaffinity asked: do you or any of your followers know of one of these (or in general a tumblr support group type thing) for other personality disorders, in particular dependent personality disorder?
Anonymous asked: i agree with what you said about early diagnosis. i think bpd in particular is maybe hard to diagnose when someone is developing, because when you're a teenager there are a lot of things that can look like bpd, it seems more distinctive in adulthood to me. but that doesn't mean that the symptoms shouldn't be treated or taken seriously, since research shows untreated childhood...
Anonymous asked: Thanks for your response about diagnosis! I think both dr and patient have to participate and agree on a diagnosis for mental illness, because they can't see the symptoms really the way you can for other illnesses, so they have to trust and listen to the patient. I know many people who have gone through misdiagnoses before getting the right one and treatment, it's very very common. ...
Anonymous asked: how long does it take for submissions to get posted? because i submitted one about a month ago, and it's still not up. just wondering!
Anonymous asked: re: DBT. Symptoms never go away, DBT isn't magical, it's just really, incredibly helpful. You learn to manage your symptoms, you gain new tools to keep yourself from spiraling out of control. But yes, if you don't practice with the tools you learn, your symptoms will still be just as bad.
awkwardpandaisaaaaawkward asked: *to retrain your thoughts and to work towards becoming "better"... because they don't know what causes bpd there's no "cure" for it, but through a combination of medication, therapies, and help from those you love and trust, you can be better in your lifetime (lol i sound like a self help guru or some shit lol)
awkwardpandaisaaaaawkward asked: DBT isn't a miracle cure all for BPD. it's a way to retrain the way you think. so of course, you're not always going to be able to think in a certain way, and you may relapse into old ways. theres a rumour that as you get older, symptoms of BPD go away... i thought it would as I approached 30, but I talked to a psyche nurse and he said "no honey, like, closer to 40-50" so...
ladyhawke1017 asked: Julie- to answer the question about BPD going away after going through DBT - the answer is no. You will see stuff by those claiming to be cured, but there is no cure. What DBT does is teach you a set of skills that allow you to control the disorder. One of the things you are told during DBT is that you have to watch your health and get enough rest - being tired or sick can cause loss of control....
Anonymous asked: I have diagnosed BPD and I had my symptoms under control for the most part. Then I had a baby, got post partum depression. The PPD makes it really hard to control the BPD.
Anonymous asked: I'm under 18 and have been diagnosed. I found that anon quite offensive because depression certainly does not cover what I experience and it seems they think that BPD is an exclusive disorder. It's not, a lot of people develop symptoms earlier than adulthood and if these symptoms are persistent it's not difficult to see where something is heading. Being depressed and having BPD are...
awkwardpandaisaaaaawkward asked: Hey Julie! Just your regular reminder that you are awesome. My dr is trying to revoke my BPD diagnoses and tell me I just have "depression" (ha ha ha he has never seen me in an "attack" when i start breaking plates and punching myself in the face). But I'm teaching myself DBT with the workbook (you can buy it at most bookstores, in case anyone wants to try it), and...
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Does a meme with a caption saying "consider self...
Well the question is for people who think writing “Friends say a joke about me - Self harm” (example) is triggering, obviously.
I don’t know, because personally I’m not triggered at all by mentions of self harming, so I just want to know what my followers more easily triggered want me to do with this kind of submission. For me it’s different because self harming and...
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the-lyrical-one asked: To the anon worrying about not being able to be diagnosed. I'm 15 and I was diagnosed just a month ago. Yeah, I guess some doctors won't diagnose you if you're only 15, but I think it really depends on how much you truly relate to the symptoms and how they observe you and your responses, etc. I don't think age matters too much if you really fit the illness.
Anonymous asked: even after dbt, can symptoms reappear? does bpd really every go away or can it be triggered again?