YES! A thousand times yes! Oh my god, in high school I constantly NEEDED a boyfriend. Even if I didn’t feel like I needed a boyfriend, I was always looking for attention from SOMEONE. And in my previous relationship, we got intimate really fast and it bothered me and I kept going back and forth on him. It must have killed him. I’d have sex and then feel really guilty and blah, and basically tell him, “I know we love each other but I don’t feel like the rest of the relationship is good enough to support sex, etc etc…” which is completely valid except for the fact I was okay with having sex with him I just felt guilty afterwards for some reason.
I used to do a lot for attention as well, like if someone told me a secret I’d tell EVERYBODY, and everyone came to me to know juicy details and I would like do stuff just for the attention. It was completely out of my character but I still did it.
But the first step is to notice you are doing it, and maybe when you are in a non pressured environment (like let’s say you’re going out with someone and you’re not in a woodsy place, you’re just relaxing at home watching a movie together, tell him about how you hate making out in a woodsy area). Unfortunately my ex mostly heard how I felt guilty over text because it was the only way I could do it. It got better though, once it was out.. and I could deal with it (I had a sexually abusive relationship previous and there were things I had to deal with before I felt completely comfortable with my ex… and that took some time…). But yes, it is normal and I go through it and I’m sure many others do as well.
Best Regards,
Chelsea.

I relate to what Chelsea said… I always had to have someone. Sometimes I become intimate with some people too early too.

The more I’m growing up, the better I am at saying no to things I don’t really want to. It still happens that I make mistakes, but I think growing up helped me making the difference between what I really want and what I think I need, but still don’t want.

I think we should ask ourselves this question before doing anything : “Will I regret it later, because I would realize I didn’t want to do it? Would it be worth it?” Remember the anxiety you felt next time a guy wants to make out in a wood. And I think Chelsea gave a good advice : tell the boy you don’t feel comfortable making out there.

It’s hard, but it’s possible!

Love,
Julie